feeling like the odd one out?


Walking into a room and instantly feeling like you don't fit in is more complicated than you'd expect—especially when trying to break into new social circles as an adult. Everyone already seems connected, yet you're standing alone on the sidelines, questioning why you bothered showing up in the first place.

Julia found herself in exactly that position during her first Book Club meeting, feeling more alienated with every shallow conversation. But she uncovered a powerful truth in the process—one that's crucial for anyone who's ever felt out of place.

Here's her story.

When the Room Isn't for You

The giggling, high-pitched chatter grated on Julia's nerves the moment she stepped into the lavish living room for Book Club's first week. Her heart sank.

This wasn't just uncomfortable. It was like walking into an inside joke that everyone understood—except her.

Her eyes darted toward the door. "Maybe I could fake an emergency... Slip out before anyone notices?"

But no. She couldn't bail this time. She'd made a promise to herself. And worse, she'd have to face her sister if she failed again. "You never stick it out," she'd say. "How will you ever make friends if you don't push through the awkwardness?"

Julia forced a smile. "Stay. Nod. Pretend to fit in," she whispered, trying to pump herself up.

But each comment about celebrity drama and overpriced handbags tightened the knot in her chest.

Her grip on the book grew tighter with every gossipy word. Her pulse quickened. "Just get to the book already!" she screamed internally, desperate for real conversation.

Julia excused herself, slipping into the sprawling kitchen to avoid making a scene. She couldn't fake it anymore. A few minutes alone, away from the cliquey laughter, would settle her down.

But there, by the island, was a woman in jeans and a faded graphic tee, casually bobbing her tea bag in a hand-painted mug.

"Let me guess," the woman smirked, "not your crowd either?"

Julia blinked in disbelief. For the first time all night, her frustration melted into relief. She wasn't alone.

"Um, no," Julia laughed sarcastically, exhaling for what felt like the first time. "I was this close to hiding in my car," she said, pinching her fingers together.

The woman chuckled. "Same. I'm Sue. Wanna grab a cupcake and hide together?" she half-joked.

Three minutes later, pale pink cupcakes in hand, they rejoined the group, slipping into seats behind the sectional. Only this time, Julia wasn't forcing her smile.

She had found an ally—someone she could relate to, someone who made sticking it out worth it. If she could survive this first awkward night, maybe, just maybe, she wouldn't let herself down. Not this time.

Feeling like you don't belong?

Navigating new social circles as an adult is no joke. It's tempting to quit when you feel like the odd one out. But fitting in isn't about forcing yourself to blend in where you don't belong.

Like Julia and Sue, you too can rewrite the situation:

  1. Acknowledge it - If you feel like you don't fit in, don't force yourself to stay in spaces that make you uncomfortable. Trust that instinct, but don't let yourself off the hook too quickly. Have a Plan B, if needed.
  2. Make the first move - Being vulnerable, even for a moment — like admitting "this isn't my scene" — can create an instant connection with someone. It shows you're open, and people often feel the same way but are too afraid to say it.
  3. Change the room, not yourself - Fitting into every social circle is impossible. Finding the one or two people who get you can change everything. Keep showing up to find your people.

You can't control who's in the room, but you can control how you handle it. The right connection may be just one conversation away.

Michelle

The Weekly Hue

By Michelle Sachs

13 Cherry St #92768, Seattle, WA 98104-2205
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